Right but I can ask the same/similar question. Why would they have particle physics like we do? There are several degrees of freedom in existing mathematical theories of physics and I don't think there is a good reason to expect that electrons would be re-discovered in another encoding of physics by an alien civilization. The entirety of particle physics is contingent on a bunch of mathematical abstractions (e.g. group theory) so then the argument becomes that these abstractions are not contingent discoveries which then fixes the entire mathematical edifice to be the same across all alien life and civilizations.
It's an interesting thought exercise but I don't think there is any reason to expect mathematics to be the same across all potential life in the universe. Human mathematics is adapted to human evolutionary contingencies and the same would be true for alien mathematics, physics, and engineering. By definition of "alien" their mathematics would be alien to us and even if there were commonalities they would be very hard to uncover.
I understand your point. And I completely agree that many of our chosen mathematical structures, and even physical models are contingent and likely accidents of history and sensory constraints.
I'm comfortable living with the tension between these two propositions: (1) The manifestation of laws of physics are real, measurable, spread across the galaxies, and essentially outside of our subjective experience. For example, I do believe that gravity and electrons are real ... not just real for me. (2) The way in which we interpret these physical realities is somewhat conditioned by the constraints and experience of being messy human animals.
It's an interesting thought exercise but I don't think there is any reason to expect mathematics to be the same across all potential life in the universe. Human mathematics is adapted to human evolutionary contingencies and the same would be true for alien mathematics, physics, and engineering. By definition of "alien" their mathematics would be alien to us and even if there were commonalities they would be very hard to uncover.