One thing that's rarely mentioned is that desperation is a stinky cologne. For some reason, the less I care about the outcome of an interaction, the better it goes. A relaxed, genuine person is more pleasant than a bland people pleaser. It's easier to be casual if you have lots of friends already, so it's hard to start anew in a different city.
Another: not everyone is comfortable in a group of strangers. If they make you nervous, you might clam up and never get past the edge of the circle. A forever stranger.
If you are one such person, you might struggle with advice about attending events and meetups. You might have more luck meeting strangers one or one.
In my opinion, meetup groups whose sole purpose is to socialise tend to feel awkward and weird.
And just like dating, not everyone you meet will be a match. It's not a reflection of your personality or theirs. Don't get too invested in the outcome.
Another: not everyone is comfortable in a group of strangers. If they make you nervous, you might clam up and never get past the edge of the circle. A forever stranger.
If you are one such person, you might struggle with advice about attending events and meetups. You might have more luck meeting strangers one or one.
In my opinion, meetup groups whose sole purpose is to socialise tend to feel awkward and weird.
And just like dating, not everyone you meet will be a match. It's not a reflection of your personality or theirs. Don't get too invested in the outcome.