> More than just failing, though, I think the lesson is learning to tolerate failure, and learning from it so that you can try again.
This is the real trick.
From my own personal experience: I went through a period of intolerance to failure -- "failure can't happen again". hypervigiliance[0] is just as problematic as negligence.
Accepting that failure will happen has allowed me to unwind quite a bit, aided in finding more empathy for others, and changed my focus to managing failure and risk. Somewahat oddly I'd come to that spot in regards to managing software in production earlier than I had been able to apply it to my own psyche.
In a way, accepting that failure happens is an optimization technique. It affords the room for curiosity and forgiveness that is required in practice to have the greatest reduction in incidents or impacts of failure over time.
This is the real trick.
From my own personal experience: I went through a period of intolerance to failure -- "failure can't happen again". hypervigiliance[0] is just as problematic as negligence.
Accepting that failure will happen has allowed me to unwind quite a bit, aided in finding more empathy for others, and changed my focus to managing failure and risk. Somewahat oddly I'd come to that spot in regards to managing software in production earlier than I had been able to apply it to my own psyche.
In a way, accepting that failure happens is an optimization technique. It affords the room for curiosity and forgiveness that is required in practice to have the greatest reduction in incidents or impacts of failure over time.
[0] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hypervigilance