It is so important to realize where you stand in life. I'm sure many of us would have loved to be in place of Ilya; In news all over at the age of 21. Perhaps he did not realize this. A great loss.
Not to comment on this specific case, but I really wish people didn't feel the need to listen to the kind of feedback you get from the general internet. It's such a waste of time and emotional energy.
Listen to the people you respect, ignore the rest. And if you do want to interact with the community, for heaven's sake, don't respond to the assholes. They're just background noise.
Yeah that's easy to say and it really should be practiced but we all want and crave validation. The web can be incredibly harsh and ignorant (just take a look at a few of the comments here that got downvoteed to hell, which they deserved by the way) but when you get that validation from total strangers there's nothing like it! It's a rush, it's addictive, and it feels so much better than the hate.
I would say, if anything, you should do your best to filter out the total assholes but not disregard all negative feedback. There's a difference between "I hate x software because I'm a FOSS fanatic and your company sucks and destroys the earth", which is pretty harsh and "fuck you, you're queer" which is just safe to ignore.
Sometimes suicide is driven by analytically looking at your life and deciding it really is awful... but a huge amount of the time it is a psychological problem of depression, which isn't going to be instantly cured by thinking "I'm in the news", or even "I have great friends/family".
The facts are the facts, but one's "analysis" is always based on opinion. When you suffer from depression, that opinion is always biased towards the negative, and it's nearly impossible to get out of the vicious cycle, especially if your serotonin receptors or secretors are malfunctioning.
Worse, you simply accept that opinion as established, cold, hard fact, which means that in your own mind it won't ever change (the world will always be a shithole. I'll always be a loser, Anything I try to do to fix things is futile because everything's so horrible, etc).
"Great friends/family" just means more people to disappoint or fail in some way. "In the news" just means a bigger humiliation once you inevitably screw everything up and piss everyone off and let everyone down.
Essentially, anything good in your life receives a negative spin, and anything bad gets amplified in your warped opinion. And that only leads to more despair, lower opinion, more despair, etc until it feels like the only logical choice is to off yourself. After all, you'd be doing the world a favor if you ceased to exist. All those people you wouldn't be there to hurt or let down. All the outrage you won't cause. It's a net gain, really.
Does that sound fucked up? It is, but for the depressed, that IS their reality.
When you're depressed, fame, money, opportunities can be all the more depressing because they don't help you feel better.
Unless you've been well-off, famous, respected, you can't understand just how big a gulf there can be between what people see when they look at you, and what you feel inside.
So, I made a fair amount of money off my last job (the company's stock plummeted, they repriced all the options, the price recovered), and I ended up with a six-figure retirement account at age 26.
I'm certainly fortunate and it makes my life a bit less stressful, but it doesn't keep me warm at night. It doesn't care about whether or not I had a good day at work. I can't have an intellectually stimulating conversation with it. And that's just a little bit of money. Fame would be even worse.
You could even cut it to "you can't understand just how big a gulf there can be between what people see when they look at you, and what you feel inside."
