Let’s start with the unpleasant. You are old and female. The best catches, as relationship minded males, are off the game board. Secondly, as an old female your expectations are likely unrealistic compared to what’s available yet simultaneously the more you date the more exhausted and desperate you will get.
The pleasant: Since you are an older single professional you have money, which means you have options. You also have your educational and career history which should provide you an awareness of the world and people that younger people don’t have, but then this assumption is only 50/50 as there are plenty of older people who are single because they are borderline autistic.
I strongly recommend not being too reliant on dating apps to meet people. All old single people do this out of desperation/convenience, which pools the desperate people together. It takes more work, especially if you are low in extroversion, to meet real people in the real world but your odds are so much better. Set your expectations low, relax, and try to have fun with it. The best benefit of being single is the freedom to do things married people with kids can’t, so keep trying to meet real people and not rush it.
I’m old and female ?!! That’s horrible. I don’t even know where to start. Don’t people live longer these days ? I don’t feel old. I don’t think I look old. I’ve got lots Id energy ! :)
All that matters, for this discussion, is the age of forming relationships according to statics. Females are ready to settle down around 22-28. From about 28-32 females that have not already had children and are not in a long term relationship are confronted by an internal biological clock that is running out. Males are ready to settle down around 26-32. That male clock is governed by the rapid decrease of sex hormone driving high risk behavior. That male window happens to overlap with that later female clock most deliberately driving a reproductive motive. This is not a coincidence. It is evolution that drives mating behavior in a very real survival sense.
In that context 41 is very old. I don't feel old either, look about 7-8 years younger than I really am, and I am older than you. I can still push my pulse above 200 bps during exercise and still do many things people much younger than me cannot. Even still, I am still human and my biological clock continues moving forward at the regular rate just like everybody else.
The pleasant: Since you are an older single professional you have money, which means you have options. You also have your educational and career history which should provide you an awareness of the world and people that younger people don’t have, but then this assumption is only 50/50 as there are plenty of older people who are single because they are borderline autistic.
I strongly recommend not being too reliant on dating apps to meet people. All old single people do this out of desperation/convenience, which pools the desperate people together. It takes more work, especially if you are low in extroversion, to meet real people in the real world but your odds are so much better. Set your expectations low, relax, and try to have fun with it. The best benefit of being single is the freedom to do things married people with kids can’t, so keep trying to meet real people and not rush it.