The point of getting advice from make friends is a very good one. They just need to be closer enough to honestly point out what is wrong (and what isn't).
I am often surprised how I misinterpret some behaviors of women. I am lucky to have a very, very good female friend (something like a sister, with all the posts and minuses :)) who does the translation for me.
What has gone wrong in previous dating relationships? Nothing stuck? Ghosted?
Marriage is a game of 'good enough' not soulmates, and I think a lot of chagrin over the whole thing comes from this.
You've come to the right forum for being given advice by a bunch of men. Good luck