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You have some incongruency in what you write: you wrote that you are beautiful, but men ghost you after 1 night.

As a man I can tell you that all my friends want to be intimate with a beautiful woman at least multiple times even if she has an unbearable personality.

I'm 40 and most of my successful friends who want kids date women under or around 30, because that's what our urges say when we want more than just sex / relationship.

The reality is that at this age if you really want a partner with a baby you probably have to marry a guy you are not attracted to (my suggestion for a 25 year old woman who wants to marry would be very different).




What is the point of saying this? My interpretation is this accuses OP of being delusional about their attractiveness or lying to us.

How is your "observation" supposed to help?

Regardless, I posit that marrying someone you're not attracted to is not a good idea if you want a happy and fulfilling life. You're going to be spending a lot, lot, lot of time with them. It's a recipe for resentment, which is fatal to relationships.


OP being delusional is not an accusation, but a feedback.

She can use photofeeler as well to get a rating (as a 40 year old successful, average looking guy I usually get about 7 even though I'm trying to take care of myself, and I definitely wouldn't describe myself as handsome when I ask for dating advice).

I'm starting to accept that I can't find a person to marry at this point in my life, I should have done it at 30 when I had the perfect partner for it, but I was immature.


Thanks for trying to explain or clarify your position.

For you my friend, please read this:

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=31963218

As a guy, your clock hasn't run out yet! If you're a 7, and a genuinely nice / generous / loving / honest / emotionally mature person, don't give up! There are fewer "good" men out there than you may realize, you're actually a hot commodity.


The difference is that once men get past 30 and testosterone starts tapering off the desire to enter relationships drops off a cliff too.

Looking back at what I put up with in my teens and 20s I'd rather be celibate. Short of testosterone injections to get me back to how horny I was then I don't see that changing.


Companionship no longer seems alluring or appealing? Sorry to hear it, that sounds rough.


Companionship is fine, it's the expected maintenance burden that isn't.




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