The connector is extremely hard to solder. They are over $1 each and so far I have destroyed 7 already.
I have tried via hot air, heated plate to hand soldering with the iron. The hot air will melt the connector so that won't work unless you heat from the bottom the the PCB. Hand soldering is also almost impossible because you can't really get to the pins and if you just slightly touch the plastic it will melt immediately. I also could not get it to work with solder paste and a hot plate. The pins are so small they don't want to adhere to the PCB. I may need to get gold plates pcbs and a stencil to place the exact amount of paste I need to get this to work. A QFN package is easy to solder in comparison.
You almost definitely would benefit from getting a stencil. Instead of a hot plate you could do a toaster oven. I got an "air frier" convection toaster oven at walmart for $50 open box. It's perfect for reflow. Also take one that you've already ruined and test the melt temp on the plastic them put a thermocouple probe on the plastic.
Is there any particular reason you can't use the featherwing package that adafruit sells? I've seen a few other folks on tindie selling other board and screen combos but personally, for my money, the feather format is pretty good for almost anything I could want to do in this form factor.
I have tried via hot air, heated plate to hand soldering with the iron. The hot air will melt the connector so that won't work unless you heat from the bottom the the PCB. Hand soldering is also almost impossible because you can't really get to the pins and if you just slightly touch the plastic it will melt immediately. I also could not get it to work with solder paste and a hot plate. The pins are so small they don't want to adhere to the PCB. I may need to get gold plates pcbs and a stencil to place the exact amount of paste I need to get this to work. A QFN package is easy to solder in comparison.