I completely agree. It took me many years to learn the lesson, but communication like you have above produces better short term and long term results in 100% of cases. The website's answer come off as passive aggressive.
I've gotten way better and your post is an excellent way to do so, but I still struggle to find a good way to phrase "Stop asking me to work on the weekends for things that are very low impact".
> I still struggle to find a good way to phrase "Stop asking me to work on the weekends for things that are very low impact".
The first step would be to confirm that you are in fact being asked to do this, and what you think the consequences of ignoring the request would be.
It can be okay to just not do something you're asked to do, or at least not do it right away. People don't have a right to your time and effort just because they wrote you an email or a Slack message.
I agree it'd be nice not to be asked in the first place, but the first step in a situation like this is to minimize the impact of the requests on you.
- Stop asking me to work on the weekends for things that are very low impact
I need to adjust my work/life balance a bit. If anything super urgent comes up on the weekend, definitely let me know. Otherwise It'll need to wait until Monday. Thanks for understanding :)
I've gotten way better and your post is an excellent way to do so, but I still struggle to find a good way to phrase "Stop asking me to work on the weekends for things that are very low impact".