It's really cool that you're reaching out here to be in the best position to advise your daughter. Based on how you phrased it, I would suggest trying to connect your daughter with people in the industry to answer some of these questions. At this point, you're unlikely to be in a position to evaluate these things better than she can, as someone who's presumably going to be studying technology. And when she actually gets into the field, she's really going to encounter things that non-professionals will have a tough time understanding.

I don't know all of the professional orgs for women, but as a Black person, I am a member of several orgs, like /dev/color, which create safe spaces for us as underrepresented people to ask candid questions and pool experience.

That said, I hope you find it interesting to engage with the tech world, which may help you continue to relate to her as she gets into the career. My parents start dozing when I tell them what's up in my professional life, haha. Even my wife, who is tech-adjacent, has limited patience for engineering talk.