> The vast majority of people I’ve seen using neopronouns, or “it” or “they” pronouns (either exclusively or alternatively with classical gendered pronouns, e.g., “she/they”) have nonbinary gender identity or agender identity, and the vast majority of the exceptions are trans, and all the rest (i.e., the cisgender ones) I’ve encountered are one of bisexual, pansexual, asexual, or same-gender attracted, usually also with gender non-conforming presentation.

Yes, I'm talking about sexuality, not gender. Most of the people I know, and/or have met, who identify as 'xe' and suchlike, are straight and usually cis (in the sense of 'not actually trans' - they do often have 'gender identities' like 'genderqueer' which amount to 'I wear heels sometimes').

It's predominantly - in my experience - straight people who covet the counter-cultural aspect of being 'queer', but who face the small problem of not actually being gay or trans or anything else, which is easily remedied by adopting one of those slightly-meaningless 'gender identities' which uniformly amount to 'I'm a teeny bit [masc/femme] sometimes'.

(I literally had a conversation with someone once who argued that watching porn didn't mean they weren't asexual. They also happened to be in a long marriage with a husband they no longer slept with, though they once had. It took all my strength not to say "lady, you're not asexual or queer, you're just a bored housewife in a dead marriage".)