Continuing to believe that may be what's holding you back. There are less- and un-attractive females that are looking for a partner as well. The "bar being too high" works in both directions.

Also, in regards to longer-term relationships, if this is true:

> You have to be attractive for girls to swipe right on you and start a conversation in the first place.

Then they're probably not the right ones to be starting a conversation with.

> Then they're probably not the right ones to be starting a conversation with.

Why? Aren't women entitled to be attracted by phisique and by passing good genes?

> You have to be attractive

Again, looking in any maternity ward at the fathers you'll see many conventionally unattractive men.

Those are the men who "stuck around". You're not going to see all the deadbeats who are having babies with multiple women in a maternity ward.

Odd thing to but-for him about. About one in five American mothers have children from more than one father, and that includes Very Upstanding(tm) folks who divorce and remarry and not the women falling for those absolute chads of your projection.

A bit of a sidetrack, but that seems like a pretty high number to me. At least in my part of the world, the numbers are at least an order of magnitude lower.

Probably is high. Americans seem to divorce a lot.

It’s actually not that bad if you get out from behind the keyboard and practice. But it’s work and it could take a few years off practice 2-3 times a week.

This is the line peddled by MRAs and similar dirtbags, yes, when they need you to be righteously angry about your situation. And yet, somehow one can muddle along and do alright for oneself--and I am not ugly but I'm not particularly attractive.

As 'rdtwo notes, though, it does take practice and commitment and it does take time.

You can work on being attractive with good diet and exercise.

what a wild single standard