It’s because the “sending message” explanation is BS unless you talk languages like Erlang. The OOP explanations doesn’t make sense because they are BS. In the real world you don’t ask your shoe to tie itself, you don’t ask a tree to chop itself etc. And in OOP languages you normally don’t ask a string to send itself over a socket or draw itself in 3D using OpenGL. The reality is that you have code operating on data. The same way you have an axe operating on a tree, or your hands operating your shoe laces. That’s it. Everything else is BS.