Life is hard for honest people. Just so you know. Good luck
An older uncle I had insisted on stepping stairs everyday. One day he fell off the stairs, and died.
Her wife, my older aunt, had help. Three hired people took turns to keep an eye on her around the clock. She still died because she fell off the bed several times in spite of that.
See a therapist yourself, try to remind family to help (usually a failure), pay for the help you can.
In the past I used to tell my mother that I would send her to a retirement home when she couldn't be independent. She shortened the discussion everytime until it was just a two word answer "F U"
Now it is a running joke but I acknowledge she prefers any other alternative if I want to help. And since I want to help she probably won't end in a care home.
An older uncle I had insisted on stepping stairs everyday. One day he fell off the stairs, and died.
Her wife, my older aunt, had help. Three hired people took turns to keep an eye on her around the clock. She still died because she fell off the bed several times in spite of that.
See a therapist yourself, try to remind family to help (usually a failure), pay for the help you can.
In the past I used to tell my mother that I would send her to a retirement home when she couldn't be independent. She shortened the discussion everytime until it was just a two word answer "F U" Now it is a running joke but I acknowledge she prefers any other alternative if I want to help. And since I want to help she probably won't end in a care home.