> I want to be around folks who want to be around
me. And not all of those, either.
This is a great distinction that I think a lot of people would be happier if they followed. Just because someone wants your time does not mean you have to, or even should, provide it to them. Wanting to spend time with you is a basic prerequisite, but is not the only criterion.
>This is a great distinction that I think a lot of people would be happier if they followed. Just because someone wants your time does not mean you have to, or even should, provide it to them. Wanting to spend time with you is a basic prerequisite, but is not the only criterion.
I think there's another piece to that as well. Some people require more external validation than others.
Those who do will seek out that validation. And a great place to get that without a lot of effort is on social media.
That's not to say those who require less external validation don't use social media. Rather, I imagine that they use it differently.
I don't have data to back any of that up, just 50+ years of living and interacting with other folks both in person and online. As such. YMMV.
Definitely sounds like you're onto something there. For myself, external validation isn't something I need outside of my immediate family. So that could definitely play a role in how I view social media, and how I was so able to cut it off.
This is a great distinction that I think a lot of people would be happier if they followed. Just because someone wants your time does not mean you have to, or even should, provide it to them. Wanting to spend time with you is a basic prerequisite, but is not the only criterion.