Listening is not "just sit there and let the sound wash over you". That part is easy.
Active listening is much more involved. It involves, among other things, developing empathy for the person talking, trying to understand their emotions and deeper reasons. Not just taking in what they say, but trying to understand what it means, and why they say it.
It is very much a skill you are not exercising in this thread.
I am listening and disagreeing. I don't want you to agree with me, you do. I listen and form my opinion.
It is exactly what I was talking about. To you, listening means the listener agreeing with you. To me, it is the listener understanding your point, which I do.
And I believe you are very wrong. If you come into a conversation expecting other people to "listen" the way that you intend (i.e., agreeing with you), you'll often be unsatisfied.
Now (I am empathetic here, wearing my manager's hat), it may very well be that I am wrong here (I am not), and surely I believe you have great potential (who knows) and the company needs people like you (whatever that means). We'll continue this conversation at the our next 1:1.
Active listening is much more involved. It involves, among other things, developing empathy for the person talking, trying to understand their emotions and deeper reasons. Not just taking in what they say, but trying to understand what it means, and why they say it.
It is very much a skill you are not exercising in this thread.