I'm a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. I spent a lot of years reading all the research I could find.
Victims of abuse of any kind fairly often get additional baggage heaped on them that they are now damaged goods and monsters who are highly likely to abuse others because of what was done to them.
I used to see the statistic that about 30 percent of children who grow up in abusive families will go on to abuse their own children while only 5 or 6 percent of "normal" people abuse their kids.
I generally like to turn that around and say "So you're telling me that in spite of learning all the wrong lessons, two-thirds of victims will be good parents and with no justification whatsoever, five or six percent of normal people will abuse their own kids for no real reason."
I am also hearing subtext for "We shouldn't let boys get raped because men are inherently bad people inclined to become rapists. Think about da womenz. These boys should be protected to protect women from them in the future."
I don't think it adds anything of real value to this discussion of the very real issue of boys being sexually assaulted while in legal custody. Boys already face more shame and stigmatization than girls without being told "And now we expect you to become a rapist!"
I've seen comments by male victims over the years on HN about how much baggage they deal with. It's generally much worse than what I had to wash off and it was mostly men who helped me wash it off.
So I don't much like seeing this minor factor talked about in this way given all that context.
This is uncalled for. dleslie made a factual claim and you asked for documentation, which he/she supplied. You seemed unable to understand that dleslie had supported the claim, so he/she pointed out to you that the document did, in fact, precisely support the words used. Now you are raising moral and emotional objections to the pointing out of simple and relevant facts.
Victims of abuse of any kind fairly often get additional baggage heaped on them that they are now damaged goods and monsters who are highly likely to abuse others because of what was done to them.
I used to see the statistic that about 30 percent of children who grow up in abusive families will go on to abuse their own children while only 5 or 6 percent of "normal" people abuse their kids.
I generally like to turn that around and say "So you're telling me that in spite of learning all the wrong lessons, two-thirds of victims will be good parents and with no justification whatsoever, five or six percent of normal people will abuse their own kids for no real reason."
I am also hearing subtext for "We shouldn't let boys get raped because men are inherently bad people inclined to become rapists. Think about da womenz. These boys should be protected to protect women from them in the future."
I don't think it adds anything of real value to this discussion of the very real issue of boys being sexually assaulted while in legal custody. Boys already face more shame and stigmatization than girls without being told "And now we expect you to become a rapist!"
I've seen comments by male victims over the years on HN about how much baggage they deal with. It's generally much worse than what I had to wash off and it was mostly men who helped me wash it off.
So I don't much like seeing this minor factor talked about in this way given all that context.