It's best to give up on any kind of consistency between command options. Any project is free to do anything it wants, and they all do. Someone is eventually going to come up with standard N+1[1] which does things consistently, but they are going to have to either recreate a bazillion tools or create some sort of huge translation framework configuration on top of existing tools to get there. And even then it'll take literally decades before people migrate away from the current tools. Basically, the sad truth is this isn't going to happen.

[1] https://xkcd.com/927/