> Of course, a healthy non-toxic relationship needs years of hard work and maintenance.

By all parties involved.

You only have control over what you put in, but if the other side isn't interested in playing by the same rules there's often nothing you can do.

I also have a good relationship with my family, but I didn't realize how good I had it until I went to college and met students who were on bad terms with their families, weren't on speaking terms, or were completely estranged. It shocked me at the time, but this is the reality for a lot of people.