Most humans suck at sorting out the cognitive dissonance between "I am a good guy" and "I let auntie Vanessa die".
Doesn't mean your approach isn't right. A lot of people just can't do that properly and it can cause stress and depression, so for them it's probably easier to just avoid having to think about it.
Humans aren't really the most sophisticated when it comes to situations like this. Almost like we weren't supposed to have 10,000x times more resources at our disposal compared to the person standing next to us.
But let's just ignore that and continue our game of monopoly. Maybe this time it'll end differently. I'm sitting next to the bank though, so the outcome is pretty much certain for me.
Thanks for reaching out. You’re right that we were struggling and this generous gift really helped ease our minds.
Anyway, Auntie Venessa has come down with lung cancer and we’re finding it difficult to…”
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