I can't reply to or upvote ~stalkersyndrome's response to add my applause, but I'll do it here instead. He's right. It's inconvenient, and people don't like reading that, which is why it's downvoted to dead, but alas, this is the same reason people avoid getting counseling, because they haven't worked up the courage to be honest with themselves yet. We'll get there, I hope.
