> it is incumbent upon them to provide a reference, not the reader.

According to who? This is not a debate class. If you are motivated to understand another you may well want to look up what they are saying. What are you adding when you reply with “never heard of her” instead of doing a quick search?

I regularly put sources in my comments but this time I was in the middle of other things.

You keep using passive language “it is incumbent” and “that’s expected of anyone”. You haven’t told me who is doing the expecting, but it’s you.

In a debate, sure, the other party isn’t going to do any work to understand you unless they can use it to make you look bad.

But if two curious people are talking, either party will do work to fill in the blanks. And I’m afraid you’re treating this as a debate.