I appreciate you trying to help, but I don't think your advice is really applicable to me personally. My problem isn't that I'm ugly; in fact, I'm probably slightly above average attractiveness. My problem is that I have trouble forming relationships because my social skills are broken, and I have a ton of lingering trauma from being shunned by my peers for most of my childhood. (But everybody's situation is different, and your advice could be certainly be very helpful for some people!)
I see, I understand. I had to go through a lot of change in my personality to get from a point where I think about what the other person thinks of me to the point where I'm more concerned about whether the relationship is working. But it took about 15 years for me.
