At the same time... if all the incels improve their fashion, attractiveness, and dating game... it's going to be at the expense of someone else, right? Or do we think more in total will end up partnered and the total size of the pie will increase?
I'm not sure how to answer that. The dating game is in some ways like any other game. There's some minimum threshold of competence below which nobody wants to play with you. Ideally, you have enough skills that people will want to play with you all the time. If you conduct yourself well, they will look forward to playing with you over and over.
But at the same time, I recognize that there are people beyond mastering even the basics.
But also, dating is usually many to many type of activity. Sure maybe marriage is one to one. But you can enjoy dating even if it does not result in marriage, multiple times with multiple people.
I dated a very obese, unattractive girl before. Ultimately it was her selfishness and failure to understand reciprocity in a relationship, that made me not want to see her anymore. Still was an interesting experience.
On the balance I didn't really enjoy dating. There were some fun points, but there was plenty of annoyance, too. For me, stable, partnered life is a lot more enjoyable.
