I don't think there's much point trying to agree on every case, only on the principles, since different people will always call different cases differently. From my perspective, the comment wasn't innocuous. It clearly steps away from the specifics of the OP's story into generic ideological themes. Asking HN commenters not to do that is standard HN moderation (https://hn.algolia.com/?dateRange=all&page=0&prefix=true&sor...). It did that repeatedly (though subtly, because it superficially takes the form of a friendly congratulation) in a way that was bound to land as flamebait in the thread. When a friendly congratulation comes with a political agenda, the political agenda will forever be the high-order bit.
"You will still face difficulties because of your gender and ethnicity" seems particularly subject-changing, and also patronizing, since it replaces the author's specific story of her own experience with a generic story based on different filters. We can't know and shouldn't presume to tell her what her future experiences will be.
I feel bad spelling this out because it makes the GP comment sound worse than it was—it doesn't deserve an exhaustive critique. But when people question what I posted, I feel obliged to share my thought process. Which requires figuring out what it was, since a lot of it by now is instinctive pattern-matching.
I was definitely not trying to introduce an agenda. I will admit I was a bit naive about how my words were going to be taken by some (really just a couple people who took my comment in the _worst_ possible light, in my opinion). I really just wanted to thank her for being part of a positive change in society and encourage her to continue.
The specific comment I made about gender/ethnicity seemed to me like an obvious given, not some prophetic word. The article implied this struggle quite clearly, I thought, as well as the tone of the the OP's other comments in this discussion.
I think given how things actually did play out that dang's actions were totally fine here. As a result I'll try and be more conscious of my words, because I don't want to be a part of a flame war anyway. I try to avoid sarcasm and destructive criticism in general. My history on this site shows that, I think.
"You will still face difficulties because of your gender and ethnicity" seems particularly subject-changing, and also patronizing, since it replaces the author's specific story of her own experience with a generic story based on different filters. We can't know and shouldn't presume to tell her what her future experiences will be.
I feel bad spelling this out because it makes the GP comment sound worse than it was—it doesn't deserve an exhaustive critique. But when people question what I posted, I feel obliged to share my thought process. Which requires figuring out what it was, since a lot of it by now is instinctive pattern-matching.