There is no 21st century option to refuse public social media. As observed with Clearview AI, if you end up in someone's photo on a social media website you will be inadvertently added to a social and location-based graph. I believe Facebook does this internally, so if you have any friends or relatives using Facebook who uploads a picture of you, no matter how old, your social graph is present there.

And try as you may, so long as you have a phone number you will end up in someone's harvested contacts list.