I have the exact same problem. It’s impossible to find competent labor that is willing to do what they’re told. I want my baby’s laundry hand washed. I want the towels to be dried in low heat. I want to use wooden spoons on my expensive enamel pans.

Instead housekeepers routinely disobey and then lie about it. And a home chef is unrepentant about scratching my pans with metal utensils. They just don’t care. If it were their own things they would put more thought and labor into it.

I have to get on my hands and knees to scrub the floor after some recalcitrant $70/hour pair of maids refuse to do anything more than wipe the grime back and forth with a swiferjet.