I don’t believe that you need to be an asshole to drive towards solving hard problems. Not in the least. That is your projection. Calling your point irrelevant is not a personal attack on you, it was intended to be a neutral objective statement. Smart people often make irrelevant points, in fact the smartest people often make the most irrelevant points when trying to drive at the truth. I don’t believe you are dumb but I do have reason to believe you can interpret a personal attack where there is none.