Viewing your child as an optimisation problem centred around your subjective view of good and bad could be all the trauma you need to inflict. Of course that's anything but a new pattern, parenting is training and training is optimising. However wielding extensive tracking & data to make your imprinting even more precise & targeted would certainly - for me - eliminate the joy of seeing someone grow into someone I admire, possibly in ways I never expected.
What you're describing is definitely not something we want to or are choosing to do.
The primary purpose of the recordings isn't for the sake of analysis, but for documentation. I think the only time we'd probably "go to the tapes" is for reliving what we call "sacred moments" (like last night when they began playing the pump organ in ways similar to me without me doing more than playing and explaining a little bit of the mechanics of the machine) or for when there's a dispute about things. My partner has an automated process of constructing exaggerated narratives and is still learning to notice when it's happening. The videos are more about capturing when we're carrying our own traumas into the relationship and visiting them upon Uni.
If this turns into something where I'm poring over videos, I'm relapsing in my information addiction hard.
Parenting is, ideally, training a new person to know/identify what their needs are and how to meet their needs, including safety, autonomy, exploration, acceptance, and interdependence. Our goal is to only stop them from doing something when they might die or be maimed. And then to get out of the way. Parenting as it's classically been done in many cultures around the world is incredibly adultist, with all kinds of assumptions about what children can and can't do. Even neuroscience and the medical field uses "childhood development" as a reason for ignoring childrens' pains, consent, and autonomy. We don't play that way. Uni is "behind" on their vaccinations due to them not yet saying yes to the ones we're at. We tried respecting their consent for the first few, but the nurses weren't onboard. Even when we had someone setup to receive a flu shot first, the nurse administered it when Uni wasn't looking, keeping them from actually seeing what was happening.
No, if anyone will be analyzing the videos, it won't be us. It'll be other people and algorithms. Any suggestions coming from the analysis will be converted into experiments to conduct with Uni's full informed consent.
Does that make things clearer about what we're trying to do here?
