Wow you and I do sound like we've had a lot of the same experiences, glad to here you're figuring out all this too. 3pm is exactly my rule too, never ever past then. Most days not past noon because my wife will ask me "have you been taking Adderall?" because my personality is so different. I go from being fun and easygoing to absolute Type-A, everything including people is either an obstacle or a tool toward a goal. I had people who saw me thriving with Adderall and started taking it – it sort of destroyed them. I'm much more cautious about recommending it. I'm having a productive day today and haven't taken any – sticking to a low carb diet for me at least seems to be the absolute most important thing for my mental health. I was so unstable and angry before.

Having a spouse around to correct my course when I start getting a little too enthusiastic about amphetamines and work was important for me too.

I use Magnesium Glycinate at the recommendation of people on the nootropics subreddit. [0] Has worked wonders.

[0] https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07ZD7R4RF/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b...