Actually for anyone who finds themselves in a situation like this: https://www.reddit.com/r/personalfinance/comments/b01179/som... has some great advice.
And if you work for a tech company, many are able to really help you (since most tech companies skew young and healthy, ie low-risk, they are able to really push on the insurance companies). I know of at least one case at AppNexus a few years ago