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Every day, try to think of something you can share with them, and then do it. Some ideas:

Tell them about what made you smile that day. Neat moments that you appreciated, but they weren't there to share it with you.

Food and drink. Whatever you're eating and enjoying, share it with that friend. Either invite them out or bring/send it to them.

Text, pictures, and video. Funny and positive, no drama, politics, etc.

Experiences. Think of something you like to do that can be shared, and invite them out to do it.

Share your time and effort. Offer your help, once, maybe twice. Don't be pushy with it. If they accept, help them like a servant, doing exactly what they ask you.

The basic idea is to consistently repeat the combination of "spending time together with you" and "day is improved".

If you do one of these daily with five people for a month, I can almost guarantee you will end up with at least one friend.

After that, you can focus on that one person more for a month to deepen your friendship. After that, add a few more people, but maintain friendship with the one person.



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