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There's not a scientific way. But you can definitely improve on these kind of interactions. The chances that something you are doing something (or equally likely: not doing something) that you had not even considered is putting people off interacting with you.

Do you have anyone in your life that you could ask for feedback? If not then you could look into Autism support services. There are people who specialise in exactly this kind of thing, and they will probably to be able to point you towards things quite quickly as they will most likely have seen the same things before.

It's also worth considering if there are other groups of people that you may not be coming in to contact with who might be more interested in the same things as you. I know some people who now have a very strong friendship group who initially struggled simply because they grew up in an area / environment where there weren't many people like them.



> Do you have anyone in your life that you could ask for feedback?

Unfortunately, I don't. It's a catch-22.

> It's also worth considering if there are other groups of people that you may not be coming in to contact with who might be more interested in the same things as you.

I'm really interested in philosophy. Since January I've been using Bumble to try to find people who share this interests, but I haven't had any luck yet.


Bumble is only slightly less shallow than tinder. Okcupid is much better suited for this task.


Isn't OkCupid for dating? Bumble has a mode specifically for finding friends.


At the end of the day it’s up to you. When I used it plenty of people were there for just friends. No dedicated feature tho




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