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I've gotten better, over time, at typing my heated, emotional response to someone online and then hitting Cancel or the back button and not posting.

Sometimes I do hit the Reply button though. I still have room for self-improvement. :-)




I've been doing that more recently too. I say to myself do I really want to do this? Or why am I getting involved in this? Especially Twitter where you can't unselect yourself from a conversation.

My new mantra is the saying, "not my circus, not my monkeys".


I do this a lot, especially in Reddit. Trick I learned is I use my notepad now to type the reply, then wait for an hour and post it. This helped with few things:

1. Slowly improving in checking for typos

2. Reading something after a break helps framing my point better and helps remove the heated emotion from the text

3. I also don't save the comment, so I have to spend time searching for it. This further helps in filtering the topics that I don't care about

4. Using services while not logged in, basically be a lurker


This is the point I got to when I realized I should no longer have an account and I just went ahead and deleted it.

For about 6 months after, I thought I would reactivate and jump back in but it's been years now and I'm 100% sure it was a life improvement.


This! It always helps me to take time out and paste what you have on a different notepad and come back to it. Only hit send if it still makes sense.


Not gonna like. u/dang has had to scold me a few times.

Improvement takes time.

We certainly need more and better role models.




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