Perhaps that’s because some other message brokers are now being touted as databases[0][1], I remember seeing a thread about it on HN couple of days ago.
Kafka is much more like a distributed file system that has queuing semantics baked in than it is an ephemeral queue that implements some level of persistence.
The fact that you put Kafka and RabbitMQ in the same category sort of makes me feel like you're out of your element, Donnie.
It may be good idea to take a break from the computer and find something less stressful to do.