>Do I think this person likes, respects, and would vouch for me?
But do you know who else does this for you? A dog.
I've never promoted anyone who likes me or respects me or vouched for me, I promote those who are reliable and have have skills to achieve the task at hand, one who will not betray themselves or their company for some kickback.
Both are valid IMO. Of course you wouldn't choose a spineless clown who only knows to please the others but not actually do any real work (though admittedly this might be what's actually happening in some places). But on the contrary, you probably also wouldn't choose somebody who only does 10x work but has endless toxic conflicts with the others and can't cooperate/earn mutual respect.
But do you know who else does this for you? A dog.
I've never promoted anyone who likes me or respects me or vouched for me, I promote those who are reliable and have have skills to achieve the task at hand, one who will not betray themselves or their company for some kickback.