For what it's worth I (OP) have been asking this question for a decade now and have gotten a good response, as well as fodder for follow ups. At least when I look back at the (few) times I have been rejected there were obvious other reasons that were _not_ this.

When you ask people what they value they talk in generalities like "good team communication is important to us," when you ask what they did yesterday you learn that feature development has stalled because everything is being rewritten in Clojure, or whatever, then you can follow up and ask about that.