It feels increasingly odd to work in exclusively male teams when there is no obvious biological reason why that would be. Possibly the casual “kill the ex-girlfriend” jokes contribute to that. I mean, some people really think like that, so it isn’t a purely innocent joke.

You mean like the Honeymooners where Ralph Kramden's running joke was that he was going to cold-cock his wife? Or do we not want to go back that far?

Dark humor is just not professional, and many people expect the content they interact with on HN to be professional in tone.

This too shall pass.

I don't have as much faith as you. I believe being "woke" is one of many things filling a void left behind by religion as more and more people find that void needing to be filled. I can't see that changing anytime soon.