Robert Kegan's Constructive-Developmental Theory could be useful in understanding this.
It basically defines an evolving relationship between Subject (what one is) and Object (what one has).
Criticism targeted at objects (what one perceives) is tolerated. Criticism targeted at the subject (what one is) is frequently a source of stress.
For example, criticism towards one's religion elicits different reactions if the religion is part of Subject (what one is) versus if the religion is Object (what one has).
The same with programming, if the piece of software gets entangled with one's identity, criticism of the software becomes criticisms targeted at one's identity and losing a piece of identity is akin to dying. For someone who only views software as objects, the reaction of a person that has their identity entangled with the software would appear blown out of proportion.
It basically defines an evolving relationship between Subject (what one is) and Object (what one has).
Criticism targeted at objects (what one perceives) is tolerated. Criticism targeted at the subject (what one is) is frequently a source of stress.
For example, criticism towards one's religion elicits different reactions if the religion is part of Subject (what one is) versus if the religion is Object (what one has).
The same with programming, if the piece of software gets entangled with one's identity, criticism of the software becomes criticisms targeted at one's identity and losing a piece of identity is akin to dying. For someone who only views software as objects, the reaction of a person that has their identity entangled with the software would appear blown out of proportion.