I thought I was going crazy when nobody seemed to express this point of view. These are exactly my feelings about this. Perhaps maintainers get the brunt of entitlement and lack of appreciation, and don't have any interest after all that in stepping back and seeing it from this perspective. I think that there may be a disconnect in understanding of words such as "owe", "expect", etc.
I think that we could use some norms around this. Perhaps there could be an EXPECTATIONS.md in each project where we lay out exactly what to expect from the author, if anything. Maybe even specify a monetary incentive to take things further. And then the rest of us know exactly what to ask for if things aren't up to expectations. But no matter what, make sure to show appreciation to everybody who does what they do as a volunteer.
I think that we could use some norms around this. Perhaps there could be an EXPECTATIONS.md in each project where we lay out exactly what to expect from the author, if anything. Maybe even specify a monetary incentive to take things further. And then the rest of us know exactly what to ask for if things aren't up to expectations. But no matter what, make sure to show appreciation to everybody who does what they do as a volunteer.