I live in the pnw and have lots of really good friends. Only moved here a few years ago but have found more acceptance and deep connections here than the south.
It's taken those years to break through the shells but people repeatedly tell me they like hanging out with me because I listen. I empathize. I'm genuine. I'm authentic.
You have to be real. Be committed to your fellow human beings. There's a dearth of that up here. A lot of judgemental people. Closed minds. Antagonism.
But if you are patient and keep letting people show you who they are and be who they are they'll cine to love you.
We need more people like that up here. They are here. Keep the good ones close and more will collect.
I am so happy I found my place. The weather is gross right now. People are staying inside shivering and will be until May next year. Try the library. Ask people questions.
I hear the same things repeatedly. No one says hi. No one smiles. No one approaches me. Do those things. People long for that.
As much as you want people to do that for you, they want it too. Be kind. reach out. Continue with the responsive ones.
Would you like to get coffee sometime? One on one works well with introverts.
Sometimes it just makes sense to go somewhere else, either temporarily or permanently. People are influenced by their environment and trying to change it can be as futile as trying to live forever. We only have so much time here in this life. If everyone in a place seems a certain way you don't like then it can be healthy to visit other places at least for sake of comparison
While I would love to get coffee, I live in New Orleans now. You mention weather right now being gross up there, which I remember clearly. Today it will be 72 and sunny here. I wonder if the weather causes social issues, unknowingly?
I don't think there's any question it does. When you travel enough in the tropics it becomes glaringly obvious. Anyone who thinks weather doesn't affect how people act should try flying from whatever northern latitude place they live in the dead of winter to a tropical place and observe the locals, I guarantee you'll see a lot more smiling and happy looking people than where you just came from
It's taken those years to break through the shells but people repeatedly tell me they like hanging out with me because I listen. I empathize. I'm genuine. I'm authentic.
You have to be real. Be committed to your fellow human beings. There's a dearth of that up here. A lot of judgemental people. Closed minds. Antagonism.
But if you are patient and keep letting people show you who they are and be who they are they'll cine to love you.
We need more people like that up here. They are here. Keep the good ones close and more will collect.
I am so happy I found my place. The weather is gross right now. People are staying inside shivering and will be until May next year. Try the library. Ask people questions.
I hear the same things repeatedly. No one says hi. No one smiles. No one approaches me. Do those things. People long for that.
As much as you want people to do that for you, they want it too. Be kind. reach out. Continue with the responsive ones.
Would you like to get coffee sometime? One on one works well with introverts.