> Her husband is legitimately allowed to ignore the card thing, and so is she.
The difference is that husband not writing does not cause other people to be hostile to him, while she not writing them does. Her husband effectively belongs to family whether he writes them or not, she does not.
And the difference between people being hostile or not does actually makes difference in your level of loneliness and happiness and what not.
> But its also true that we somehow raise girls to be more sensitive to societal expectations than men. The whole thing is deliciously complicated.
We raise them that way for example by being snippy at them for not writing cards, but by being still friendly with men who dont write them.
And now of course,there is also the part where men are more lonely in united states.
The difference is that husband not writing does not cause other people to be hostile to him, while she not writing them does. Her husband effectively belongs to family whether he writes them or not, she does not.
And the difference between people being hostile or not does actually makes difference in your level of loneliness and happiness and what not.
> But its also true that we somehow raise girls to be more sensitive to societal expectations than men. The whole thing is deliciously complicated.
We raise them that way for example by being snippy at them for not writing cards, but by being still friendly with men who dont write them.
And now of course,there is also the part where men are more lonely in united states.