I think what frustrates me about speaking with some people who have learned NVC is that they seem to speak it with a very rigid formula and then they seem frustrated when I don't respond with the same sentence structure. Almost like they're speaking a different language and want me to conform to their language instead of meeting me halfway.
Does that sound related to what you're talking about?
Yeah, exactly. They're trying to control the language used in such a way to make disagreement with them impossible. (I don't know if this is an NVC thing, it could just be the people doing this).
A great example in fiction is the scene in Donnie Darko where the teacher is trying to make everyone classify things on a scale from "fear" to "love" and not accepting any answers not on the scale.
Does that sound related to what you're talking about?