It's also more common for the man to do work that is more dangerous, exposed to the elements, requires more travel, and other hazards to earn the extra money the risk brings.
Yeah. Any relationship I've been in, it was mostly her doing cooking, dishes, and general home decor, while I did gardening, vacuuming, fixing and hardware setup, and occasionally helped with dishes. Early dating sometimes I'd treat her to a specialty and cook myself, but outside of that I only cook if they aren't already cooking.
I've seen so many articles complain about this setup being somehow sexist, but it has always played to our strengths and weaknesses. My partners usually never liked bugs, I can garden. I also find vacuuming relaxing, and I'll take any opportunity to fix somthing to grease my skills. They are usually picky eaters, so my partners cook, they usually like the home kept in a certain way, so they clean and buy things for the home.
It is just the way things are, there is no deep-sexism inherent in any of my relationships, just a reduction of the commons
Except she's doing things that require significant every day time commitments and you're not. You're a poster boy for what people are talking about.
Do you think that women are naturally better at cooking, or do you think that societal expectations have made this basic life skill a necessity for her and optional for you? Your partners having opinions on food or household cleanliness are things that you should take into account as part of a relationship.
You seem to have a deep seated issue with both parties choosing independently to do whatever housework they want to do. You're making a lot of assumptions, like assuming I tell anyone what housework to do or thinking that I have never approached any of my partners and discussed what they want to do.
I recommend you figure out those issues on your own instead of projecting your views of the world on other's relationships
Thinking your choices are independent of socialization (especially when you literally fullfil a stereotype) is absurd. Individual choice removed from societal context is a near myth.
Examining your choices to align with morality is necessary.
If you don't want people to use their worldviews on your relationships, don't talk about them on a public forum. This isn't a validation group.
>Examining your choices to align with morality is necessary
It isn't. My morality is not yours, yours is not mine. Additionally, I don't care if you project your worldviews onto me, it was a recommendation, which it seems you failed to follow. You do you.
I crunched the numbers on my household (two people) awhile back.
Once you amortize weekly things like laundry, vacuuming, shopping and washing the dog they come out to less than an hour a day. Cooking and cleaning up after cooking is also less than an hour. The real time sink is weekly tasks that take substantial amounts of time. There are basically two categories of those tasks, cleaning lots of things (e.g. making everything spotless because guests are coming) and property maintenance. These numbers are very household specific since the difference between "needs to be done" and "should be done" are very much based on personal preference.
Assuming a western lifestyle and a household size of 2(!!) 4hr/day of housework would probably require a high maintenance property (lots of hedges to trim and grass to cut) and/or lots of cooking from scratch and/or heating with wood (and splitting it yourself) and/or doing a lot of cleaning that is probably not strictly necessary.
A castle is stretching it but if it's a small castle, the landscaping isn't too opulent, you aren't a neat freak and have the money to spend on labor saving equipment it should be doable on 4hr/day.
Spoken like someone who's never done housekeeping. 4 hours a day is a pretty normal amount if you need to wash clothes, sweep, mop, do a family's worth of laundry, prepare food, clean dishes, etc.
Yeah I am also wondering where this 4hr per day statistic is coming from. Dinner for two usually takes no longer than 1 hr a day, dishes usually put in the dishwasher every other day, and we reserve Sundays for cleaning, laundry and taking out recyclables. I cannot fathom anyone taking 4 hrs every single day to do housework, unless you have some kind of aversion to a dirty clothes bin or dishes piling up in the sink or Mr. Clean holding a gun to your head.
