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Part of functioning well in groups is understanding that not everyone shares your specific quirks - everyone has their own weird shit.

Of course, trying to accommodate everyone's unique perspective and behaviors would never scale, so instead we fabricate social norms that represent a sort of common denominator of human behavior. Part of these social norms are manners and polite behavior. These act as a sort of protocol for human interaction.

This all a long way of saying that even though you may think saying "please" is condescending or implies a favor, you are almost certainly in a vanishingly small minority and this will not serve you well socially.

I am trying to give you some insight into why you struggle with social interactions and often rub people the wrong way without intending to or even realizing it. My strong recommendation is you be polite even when you think you don't need to be.




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