Not sure if you can solve this at all. Because thoughter will be used for a reason that it isn't meeant to be used for.

So correct me if I am wrong but I think thoughter is most useful when you almost "know" that you have a thought resonating with somebody else and you want to confirm it. Its not for making wild hits at people. Right?

Correct, not for making wild hits. And yea getting past spam email anywhere near 100% of the time is basically impossible, but I did seem to be getting into people's junk folders more often than I expected. I'm using https://postmarkapp.com/ FWIW, so going to see if there's different language or format or paygrade or something that will improve my delivery rate.