Don't you think this kind of defeats the propose of having a friend ? Sure, you don't want to be an asshole like social network zuck, but that doesnt mean one should suppress themselves just to please others.
I have thought of friendship as a distinctly tiered system. I very carefully reveal parts of me to a lower tier of friends (mostly acquaintances), and use those reactions to gauge of I want to reveal more of myself to them.
Trust and exposing vulnerability are IMO at the Crux of what friendship is. There is a certain irrationality and lack of equal exchange that goes into being a friend. Like sometimes inconveniencing yourself to help a friend, without any clear short term reward in sight.
If I had to always act like someone else in front of my friends, then I would say I don't have friends at all.
I have thought of friendship as a distinctly tiered system. I very carefully reveal parts of me to a lower tier of friends (mostly acquaintances), and use those reactions to gauge of I want to reveal more of myself to them.
Trust and exposing vulnerability are IMO at the Crux of what friendship is. There is a certain irrationality and lack of equal exchange that goes into being a friend. Like sometimes inconveniencing yourself to help a friend, without any clear short term reward in sight.
If I had to always act like someone else in front of my friends, then I would say I don't have friends at all.