> I'm sorry that I'm bad with people, and wrote a "privileged, muddled whinge."

Don't apologise to me! What you got was my take on how you have presented yourself. I've been responsible for hiring people in the past, and I'll hire people again in the future. Maybe my first impression could be useful to you.

All you need to do is take it (the criticism) or leave it. Defend it if you want, but there's no-one here interested in hearing that. Perhaps more valuably for you would be to try to work out why you came across like that.

> I grew up in the countryside and I don't know how to meet people.

I grew up having no friends at school and was bullied for 5 years. It took me until my 30s to recover from it. This included being incredibly shy and not knowing how to meet people. The process will never be complete.

> Please can you teach me how to get better?

I can tell you how I recovered, your path may differ.

After a year with no real friends in London (pints after work with colleages apart) I went to tech meetups. I learned to talk to people by just doing it. I realised that these people were very very similar to me. I persevered and eventually friendships just fell out of that.

Are you interested in reading? Join a reading group. D&D, join a… you get the picture.

I understand that it's paralysingly hard for some people to talk to other people, so I suggest gently pushing yourself to take small steps by surrounding yourself with relatively like-minded people, people who at least are likely to share a similar mental state.

I can now talk to people, go up to them, small talk. Even convince themselves that I'm outgoing. It's tiring and I need to take a break from it and it feels like an act, but it works, and I make friends and I have a better life because of it.

> If certifications aren't the answer, do you have a better solution? I'll lower my dreams and take anything, anywhere.

A better solution? Not really. Work out why you've not been getting the jobs. Getting a CCNA only to discover that not having a CCNA wasn't the reason you weren't getting the job will set you back $number_of_years_it_takes_to_get_a_CCNA.

The purpose of getting a CCNA is networking: not only the digital kind, but also the social kind. That could help me get a student visa to be in the right country, where I might meet the right people to help achieve my dream of settling there.

Well, if they're not offering the course than that makes it difficult, and if it turns out it's not the lack of CCNA that's preventing you getting a job then you've not done yourself any favours.

Maybe it will help, I don't know. Good luck though.