"organizing their own mind and behavior around somebody else's issues." Its very personal.
Compound this with, the words seem silly and contrived. How about you address me as "Mr. Oingy Boingy" from now on. To get a flavor of the emotional content of language. Just as an example; choose your own.
Let me be more helpful and less obtuse. Language is an emotional issue, so yes folks become pedantic and argumentative. That route (arguing) is unlikely to get a favorable response.
What will work then? Empathizing, suggesting ways to help folks who are sensitive and understand their point of view. Things like that.
I understand the frustration that comes with failure to convince, particularly when its a point that seem obvious and simple. I apologize for vectoring off with unhelpful comments about trolling. I'll try to understand the issue better in future.
See? That was easy and didn't cost me anything. I'll take my own advice more in future.
Compound this with, the words seem silly and contrived. How about you address me as "Mr. Oingy Boingy" from now on. To get a flavor of the emotional content of language. Just as an example; choose your own.
Let me be more helpful and less obtuse. Language is an emotional issue, so yes folks become pedantic and argumentative. That route (arguing) is unlikely to get a favorable response.
What will work then? Empathizing, suggesting ways to help folks who are sensitive and understand their point of view. Things like that.
I understand the frustration that comes with failure to convince, particularly when its a point that seem obvious and simple. I apologize for vectoring off with unhelpful comments about trolling. I'll try to understand the issue better in future.
See? That was easy and didn't cost me anything. I'll take my own advice more in future.