I simply ask people what led them to the party in the first place.
This normally leads to converstaions about their friends, then hobbies and lastly jobs.
Either I have (had) some similar interests/frieds/job or I just show general interest for parts of their lifes.
The main point that helped me in such coversations simply was: Not having a goal.
I don't care if I just have one conversation, find new friends, a hookup, business contacts or whatnot. I simply try to learn about peoples lifes and appreciate the conversation.
Somehow this elevates one already above 90% of dudes who talk to someone at parties...
This normally leads to converstaions about their friends, then hobbies and lastly jobs.
Either I have (had) some similar interests/frieds/job or I just show general interest for parts of their lifes.
The main point that helped me in such coversations simply was: Not having a goal.
I don't care if I just have one conversation, find new friends, a hookup, business contacts or whatnot. I simply try to learn about peoples lifes and appreciate the conversation.
Somehow this elevates one already above 90% of dudes who talk to someone at parties...